Am I Shy, Unfriendly, Antisocial, Or Am I An Introvert?

Lately it seems that many of us are trying to classify ourselves, and others, as an introvert or an extrovert when in reality it’s not always distinctly one, or the other. Yet, all too often introversion comes with a negative connotation. Frequently we judge, criticize, or label ourselves, or others, as snobbish, pretentious, unfriendly, antisocial, or just downright disconnected for being quiet, or not talking and interacting enough.

There isn’t always a simple explanation for someone who is quiet. Introversion is certainly misunderstood, and often, criticized. Although we are not overtly participating in an active, observable way.

“people who are introverted tend to be inward turning, or focused more on internal thoughts, feelings and moods rather than seeking out external stimulation”, according to kendra cherry. We prefer enjoying quality relationships to a large quantity of them. Then there are some of us who are truly shy and afraid of sharing or speaking up.

So often we misinterpret someone else’s lack of spontaneity, or their expression, or lack of greeting, as unfriendly. Often what happens then is that we label that person and don’t extend ourselves to them because of our judgment. Thus, creating a cycle of disconnection.

The silent struggle is real it is all too common that we, or others, judge and criticize those who tend to be on the quiet side. Our culture often sees the extroverted, outgoing, social personality type as the ideal. Seldom do we ask ourselves, “might that quiet person feel uncomfortable or shy about saying hello or interacting in a conversation?” or “might this person fear rejection because of one’s unresolved history?” if they were reaching out to other people, for example, and then someone did not reach back they might hesitate to approach others.

Perhaps if we took the time to provide quiet company and encouragement instead of making a quick judgment we might discover more about ourselves as well as others.

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