Now that some, or all, of the structure from someone’s life has been removed, they could be in a very bad way. In a way, it could be as though they were on solid ground and now they are trying to keep their head above water. Further, their sense of self could have more or less disappeared, causing them to feel completely lost.
An analogy what they have gone through will be very similar to what happens to an ice cube that is put into warm water. Before it is put in the water, it will be a solid object, but, when it is put in the water, it will lose its solidity. However, while it will be clear as to why the ice cube has melted, what won’t be clear is why one is experiencing life in this way.
It could make absolutely no sense whosoever and as this is so, what they are going through could be terrifying. For example, they could have had a fairly rewarding job, spent a fair amount of time with friends, socialised and even had a number of different hobbies. This is not to say that they always felt good about themselves or always experienced inner peace, yet their inner world might not have caused them too many problems.
There then wouldn’t have been anything within them that would have created the impression that they were in for a rough time. Just as surprised along with how shocked one is about what they are going through, the people in their life could also struggle to understand what is going on. At the same time, one could try to hide what they are going through from the people in their life.
This could take place by not going out as much or responding to messages or calls. Some of the people in their life could then take it personally, believing that they themselves have done something wrong. The ideal if one doesn’t try to hide what they are going through, or simply can’t hide what they are going through, it will make it easier for them to receive the assistance that they need.
If they don’t receive any support, they could easily go over the edge and call time on their present incarnation. Also, what they are doing through won’t be resolved overnight, so they will need to call upon all the strength and courage that is within them to get through to the other side. A key component it has been said that where there’s a will there is a way, and one will need to stay connected to their will to live.
This will play a big part in what will allow them to slowly move beyond what might currently seem insurmountable and to live a life that is worth living. When it comes to raising a functional child, it has been said that it takes a village. It won’t take a village for them to get through this but it will take a certain type of support that might not be able to be provided by their friends and, even if they can support them, they might not know what it is that they actually need to be able to move forward.
Two worlds with that said, the big question is: why has someone gone from a seemingly together human being, to someone who has literally fallen apart? from someone who was a productive member of society, and even highly capable, to someone who simply can’t function anymore or even do basic tasks? the reason why this has taken place could be because their unresolved childhood trauma has been triggered, which caused their false-self to come tumbling down. The self that they had would have been built on sand. Perhaps they lost their job, lost a loved one and/or had a breakup.
After this took place, it would have been as though they had a self-destruct button and this button was pressed. Like humpty dumpty, they would have fallen into pieces. Slightly different then again, it might not be this black and white as they could have fallen apart over a certain period of time.
They would have then experienced a number of losses, with each one wearing them down. Like the straw that broke the camel’s back, it would have only taken one small thing to knock them over the edge. Some of, or all of, the external structure that had kept their trauma at bay for so many years and allowed them to function would have disappeared.
Way back what this could illustrate is that their early years were a time when their developmental needs were rarely, if ever, met. Through not receiving the love and care that they need to go through each developmental task, it would have caused them to experience a lot of pain and it would have stopped them from being able to grow. This would have stopped them for developing a strong core (sense of self) and the ability to handle their own emotions, amongst other things.
The clock was ticking disconnecting from their pain, or their body to be more exact, would have been the only way for them to survive. If this didn’t take place, the pain that they were in would have ended their life. But, although what took place had been forgotten about by their conscious mind, their unconscious mind hadn’t forgotten about it and this part of them would have been trying to get their conscious minds attention.
Awareness for years, the defences that they had in place would have kept most of this pain at bay, but like a wall that is breached after a certain amount of pressure has been exerted, the energy (or emotional material) in their body would have gradually burst through their defences. Like a wave, this energy will have consumed their being. This is something that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or healer.