When you hear the phrase, “it is what it is,” do you feel relaxed? do you feel like screaming? or do you go into an apathetic or complacent place? more and more we are hearing others, and ourselves, saying, “it is what it is. Determining what the phrase means to us can allow us to learn a lot about ourselves. What does the phrase mean? “it is what it is,” means different things depending on who is saying it and their perspective on life.
The phrase would mean one thing to a person who tends to have more of a hopeful nature and is working toward letting things go that are outside of our control. It means something entirely different to the person saying it if they tend to be of a more negative nature. To them the expression might be about giving up or giving in.
Similar to that of the serenity prayer that talks about accepting things we cannot change. Too hard, too uncomfortable, too scary, or too anxiety provoking to avoid interaction with someone, being flippant, or dismissing the topic as if rationalizing “that’s just who he is.