What this is likely to illustrate is that a big part of them doesn’t want their life to change. To this part of them, what is taking place will be associated as what is safe. Thus, even though what is taking place will stop them from living a fulfilling existence, there will be a hidden benefit to it.
Two parts at this point, one could struggle to understand what is going. It could be as though something else, something that is completely out of their control, is in control of their life. Another way of looking at this would be to say that it is their unconscious mind that is sabotaging their life.
This part of them will have far more control over their life than their conscious mind. Two extremes as this part of them wants something else and it has far more control, it won’t matter what their conscious mind wants. For their life to change, then, they will need to get this part of them on board.
Once this takes place, their life will have to change. Through being aware of this, what could consume one’s mind is why what is taking place in their life would be associated as what is safe at a deeper level. If their mind has blocked out this stage of their life, this won’t be an option right now.
A traumatic time this wouldn’t have been a time when they received what they needed to receive in order to grow and develop. Instead, it would have been a time when they had to do what they could to survive. As they were powerless, dependent and incapable, they wouldn’t have been able to do anything about what was going on.
But, thanks to their strength and ability to both adapt and to dissociate, they were able to handle what took place by disconnecting from the experience. At a great cost still, while they lived to tell the tale, so to speak, what took place would have left a mark on their whole system. It would have affected their brain and nervous system and mental and emotional self.
In addition to this, there would have been the beliefs/associations that their mind formed during this stage of their life. Forming these would have allowed them to handle what was going on at this stage of their life, but now that what took place is over, these will do more harm than good. The truth is that they no longer need to hold onto these beliefs/associations.
Awareness for one to move forward, it will be essential for them to shine the light of awareness on what they believe and to question what comes up. Along with this, there are likely to be the emotional wounds that they carry from this stage of their life. This is a process that can take place with the assistance of a therapist or healer.